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After online dating for a while, you will begin to gather a large number of phone numbers from women online. Some of these numbers will turn into dates; some of these numbers may turn into more than just a date. Inevitably, some of the phone numbers you get from girls online will go nowhere.
You will find that a greater number of phone numbers you get from online dating will turn into dead leads that phone numbers you get during the day or when out at night. This is just the nature of the beast. Girl who are using online dating to meet men are playing the field like no bodies business. They may be flakey, an attention whore, a whore, or all three. One thing is certain, they are playing the field.
Don’t let this discourage you. The benefit of online dating is that if a girl does agree to meet you she views you as one of her top options. Thus, she is highly attracted to you and should be easier to seduce and hook up with in some respects.
What Do I Do With All These Numbers
Still, you are going to have a collection of phone numbers sitting in your phone waiting to be texted. A number could have gone stale on you for a variety of reasons. She may have been ill, she may have been on the rag, she may have had a stable of fuck buddies when you got her number, she could have been dealing with genital warts/herpes/AIDS, etc. There are a million reasons why she decided not to pursue meeting up with you.
One of these reasons is certainly that she was just not that into you, but I find that overly pessimistic. Personally, my ego never has came to that conclusion…
There are so many other reasons she could have not been able to meet up. That is where a re-start text comes into play.
A Beginner’s Guide to Re-Start Texts
An online dating re-start text is when you text a girl who you have previously interacted with, but never met up with. When sending a re-start text you need to realize you are essentially throwing a “Hail-Mary” pass. The likelihood of you meeting a girl that you sent a re-start text is low, but online dating is always strictly a numbers game.
Re-start texts do work on occasion. If you decide to send out a few re-start texts, here are a few of the best ways to do so:
Non-Sequitar Re-Start Texts
One classic re-start texting tactic made famous by Heartiste is the non-sequitar text. You send a girl you haven’t been in contact with for awhile something that sounds like you’re in mid-conversation with someone. The text will get her imagination running and the mystery will make her ‘need’ to text you back to find out what on earth is going on and why you texted her.
Examples of good non-sequitar texts:
Theses texts all leave the girl wondering what the fuck you are talking about. She will respond and then you can say something like, “my bad wrong person” which will pique her curiosity more so. If she responds to you “my bad…” text then she is effectively re-opened and you can begin to get her out.
Another incredibly basic half non-sequitar text, half normal re-start style text is to invite her when you are out on a weeknight. Say happy hour drinks with co-workers is winding down or you had a bum date and now your having a drink on a Tuesday night. You can spam out a few of your dead leads a re-start text in this fashion:
Fallon tonight. Come out
You’ll want to tell her the bar you’re at and then tell her to come out. Do not ask. Do not go through pleasantries. This is strictly a numbers game. You are spamming to see if any girls are out and possibly horny. You should be able to send 10-15 girls this text if you expect to get one girl to come out.
Basic Re-Start Texts
The most basic restart texts of all time are playing off the weekend. If you haven’t interacted with a girl, you can restart her on Monday or Thursday with talk of the weekend. Use the Monday version if you want to get her out on a date or to meet up. Use the Thursday version if you want to have her to a party or pre-game you are throwing.
How was your weekend?
Any fun plans for the weekend?
Last Ditch Re-Start Texts
Lastly, there are restart texts that are a bit more ambitious. These texts are “Hail-Mary’s” in the truest since of the word. I have personally used both of these with minor success:
Wow Ally just scrolling thru my phone and realized it’s tragic we never met up. What are you up to later
Hey what’s your thoughts on a lovechild?
These are last-ditch efforts when you may have not contacted a girl for 2-6 months. They can work, but it is rare.
If you have a 5-10% success rate with re-start texting, you are doing incredibly well. While that may seem low, over the course of a year it can add up to a decent amount of dates or meetups.
Don’t Go Re-Start Text Crazy
Lastly always remember to not blow up girl’s phones with re-start texts. If you send her one and she doesn’t respond, do not send her another one for at least 6 months. You do not want to come off as a needy dweeb in her eyes.