Get a Girls Number (on Tinder)
From match, to catch: How I get a girl’s number on Tinder almost 100% of the time, and essential do’s and don’t for Tinder dates So you’ve matched a girl on Tinder and you’re wondering how to get her phone number and get her out on a date? And once you’ve gotten her out, you’re probably wondering what you can do to ensure the date is a success.
Well I’ve got you bro. I’m about to lay out to you the exact flow I use to get a girls number pretty much every time I ask for it, and once we’re dating, what I do (and don’t do) to make sure it’s a successful date. This article is handy for people of all skill levels, whether you’re just getting to grips with online dating and Tinder, or you’re a seasoned "dataholic" looking to streamline your dating flow or compare notes. I don’t use any gimmicks, tactics, or lines, and I’m about to lay out the principles which you can follow while allowing your personality to shine through.
Without further ado, let’s begin, and let’s start off with how to get the number. It’s a numbers game In this day and age, guys tend to overthink getting a girl’s number and requesting this short string of digits on Tinder is no different. For some guys, it’s really difficult, and they’ve been turned down more times than a Jehova’s witness giving out flyers for God. For others, it’s something you can brag about like an achievement unlocked in a game. Really it’s just a part of the dating process and isn’t such a big deal to get a girls number.
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It’s really not as hard as you think and your chances to get a girls number improve if you ask for it bearing in mind this one principle: “So what’s your number?” Have a purpose behind getting the number. Fundamentally you want to get her number for a reason, not so you can add it to your collection. If you’d just met her in person it makes sense to ask for the number as it allows you to meet up again or continue chatting with her. Seeing as you’ve just matched her on Tinder, she already has a direct line of communication with you — Tinder! Which allows her to unmatch you with one tap if she decides she doesn’t like you or you creep her out.
When you get a girls number, is a more permanent direct line to her so she’ll be hesitant to give it out so easily. Asking for her number for a reason will make her more likely to give it to you. Backed by research, also, research has shown that giving reasons when making requests increases the compliance rate.
For example, Ellen Langer, a Psychologist at the Psychological Department at Harvard University, conducted an experiment in the 1970s, which involved people queuing in an office to use a copier. She got an actor to repeatedly try to cut in at the front of the line while giving different excuses. When he said “Excuse me, I have five pages. May I use the photocopier?” he was allowed to cut in 60% of the time. However, when he added “…because I am in a rush” his success rate jumped up to 94%. When he instead added “because I need some copies”, his success rate was 93%! Even though everyone in the queue obviously needed to make some copies as well.
What Langer deduced is that people are more likely to agree to do something if you give them a reason. My best two reasons to ask to get a girls number having said that, what reasons could you provide her for getting her number? Well I’ve gotchu bro, the two best and genuine reasons I’ve used to ask for a phone number are as follows: 1. You’ve already set up a date with her so want to message and call her when meeting up. 2. Because Tinder messaging is buggy Give her an emotional spike Now before you do either of these you want to make sure that you’re at a high point of the conversation.
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You also want to have given her some sort of emotional spike, by making her laugh or teasing her. This will put her in a good mood and more receptive to you. This is a great way to get a girls number. You do not want to do either of these during a boring lull, or after you’ve bored her with the usual “how are you? Where are you from? What do you do?” questions. If you’re stuck, phrase one of these questions instead as a statement, making an assumption about her pictures or bio, to get her to respond and then tease her. When she inevitably asks what you do, playfully make a blatant lie and stick to it. For example I like to say that “I’m an ass model”, she’ll laugh and say that you’re bullshitting, but stick to your guns and pretend to be serious. If she asks you to show her your ass, just say “does a doctor give free healthcare? How much am I going to make from this?”. Getting laughs is a great way to get a girls number.
You could also pretend you’ve misread what she typed, blowing it out of proportion, or accuse her of something funny or exaggerate. If you’re really stuck, link her a picture of a funny meme, then get the conversation rolling from there. To summarize just be a bit imaginative and playful with your response. Instead of giving her a straight answer. But don’t overdo this or she’ll think you’re a clown. If you’re having a boring, logical, conversation, she may wonder why she should give you her number, but if you’re having a fun conversation she’ll be more complicit. You just want to talk for as long or as little to get her comfortable with talking to you. If you want to get a girls number, chat as long as possible and make her feels very comfortable talking with you.
Don’t overdo it by having epic pen pal letters back and forth, as the sexual tension will dissipate and she won’t want to see you. And don’t get too sexual too quickly. She’ll most likely be offended, but even if she does reply you risk her later feeling cheap, regretting it and unmatching you. Get a feel for how responsive she is to you and when you feel the buying temperature is right, ask her out on a date. Asking to get a girls number after setting up a date, now she’s in a good mood, she’s used to you, and you’ve been flirting back and forth, just casually set up a date. This is the best time to ask to get a girls number, as it makes sense so you won’t encounter much resistance.
You’ve just set up the date and most likely will need to call each other when you meet up to let each other know when you’ve arrived. So once you’ve set up the date, simply ask “what’s your phone number? Mine is…”, and add your number, she’ll then tell you hers. In going first and giving her your number you’re more likely to get a girls number, and the fact that you’ve just given her your number makes it seem like it’s really casual to you. Asking to get a girls number because Tinder messaging is buggy compared to other apps messaging on Tinder is about as reliable as dodgy Wi-Fi connection (no offense devs, I still love you though). So I prefer to message on Whatsapp, which also has so many more messaging options. Say “Tinder doesn’t always notify me, so I keep missing messages. Let’s message on Whatsapp. It’s way more reliable for me. What’s your phone number? Mine is [your number]”
Get a girls number, Of course you should actually have Whatsapp installed. She’ll then give you her number, copy it and add her to contacts, and immediately send her a Whatsapp message saying “Hi it’s [Your name]”. Wait for her to add you, and reply, then just continue the conversation on WhatsApp. You may want to unmatch her from Tinder now, but leave it a day or two so she doesn’t notice. This makes it less awkward if things develop down the line and she sees that you’re still galavanting around on Tinder. It also makes it harder to track your movements, questioning a change in your bio, or profile pictures. Trust me, women do this. What if she says no? If she doesn’t want to give you her number, then she’s not comfortable enough with you yet. That’s cool. Fall back, and continue to chat with her as if nothing’s happened. Then ask again later after setting up a date. You've achieved your goal, to get a girls number,
WHY Whatsapp ?
Why WhatsApp? A great thing about WhatsApp is you can see her profile pic, so you know it’s definitely her and not some random guy named Bob. You can send each other pictures, and audio messages so she can put a voice to the face, and build up anticipation for when she finally meets you. Also, you can see when she’s been online last so you know if she’s been ignoring your messages. But really don’t get too caught up in that sort of thing. What if she’s not on WhatsApp? If she says she’s not on WhatsApp, just say cool I’ll text you instead, and then immediately text her saying “hi it’s [your name]”. Always message her immediately either by text or Whatsapp as she has the phone in her hand at that point, so she’ll reply and get some buy-in. If you leave it till later, she might be doing something else at the time and may not reply, or save your number, which breaks up the flow of the conversation, and makes it more complicated to transition from tinder to other messaging. This is a great way to get a girls number.
Gauge how interested she is Also, You can use asking TO get a girls number, as a test of compliance. If she gives it to you she’s more likely to say yes to other things. If she says no, she’s not quite there yet, and you’ll need to fall back, get her more comfortable with you, get a bit of bants going, and sub-communicate that there won’t be a downside, and she’ll give it to you when you ask again. Asking to get a girls number can also be a litmus test to see if she’s going to waste your time. And there you have it, two techniques that I use to get a woman’s phone number on Tinder. It’s really not such a big deal when you think about it. Do it at a good point in the conversation, make it make sense, and give her a reason and she will be more likely to give you her digits. So with the number acquired and the date set up, let’s look at the do’s and don’ts of Tinder dating.
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Good luck in your journey to get a girls number, ask for it.