6 Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid
More and more singles are going online in search of potential partners these days and no wonder. Why go through all the stress of busy bars and noisy nightclubs, peopled by shallow individuals looking for casual get-together s, when you can join a dating service and get to know other singles in a friendly, relaxed environment? But a word of caution is necessary. If you've never tried it before and are considering getting into online dating, here are six mistakes you need to avoid if you are going to be successful.
Your approach is too flippant
Because you are using a computer or smartphone to arrange your relationships, there can be a tendency to treat the whole exercise like any other aspect of using a gadget.
One minute you might be playing a game, the next popping into your dating app to check if you have received any new messages.
What this can do is create an atmosphere where you are not fully engaging with dating, but rather treating it as another aspect of your recreational fun.
But if you are to truly connect with another individual, you need to commit.
This involves fully engaging when you are communicating with them. At the end of the day, we are talking about human relationships, not games.
Here's an article we did back in 2015 on online dating
You haven't paid full attention to profiles
With so many profiles to browse through, it's no wonder you might not give any one of them your undivided attention. Your fingers might be getting overly itchy to move onto the next one. And the next one. But it is necessary to study descriptions to gain a sense of the individual at the other end. They might have attractive profile photographs, but you need to uncover personalities, too.
You've not considered safety issues
That can be a tendency to rush out to meet someone without fully getting to know them. But it is important to consider safety issues. Never be tempted to divulge too much personal information at an early stage. There have been instances where people have used the online dating world to commit identity fraud, gaining someone's confidence before accessing private details. Like bank details. When you do eventually arrange a face-to-face meeting, this should always be in a public place.
You've painted a false picture
Never be tempted to post a profile photo from 10 years and a couple stones ago! Just think of the practicalities of having presented this image of yourself when it comes to actually meeting your new partner. Picture the look of disappointment when they realize they have been misled. Remember, online dating is no different to any other type of matchmaking. Honesty is always the best policy.
Your messages aren't engaging
When you are communicating with someone, you must always be aware you are operating in a highly competitive market. If your messages just aren't captivating enough, the person you are trying to attract will simply move onto the next likely candidate. You also need to make sure you find the right balance between entertaining them, attracting their attention, and not being overly wordy. Always think of the mantra, ‘quality over quantity.
This is an article we did on your Tinder Bio
You haven't analyzed if this site is really for you
A common mistake which occurs in the world of Internet dating is for people to choose a website which is simply incompatible with the type of relationship they're looking for. With so many to choose from, it's only natural people can alight on the first one that catches their eye. But what if this website it only aimed at people seeking one-night stands while you're hoping for a serious relationship? A modicum of common sense will go a long way.
Happy Dating, please let us know of your experiences out there!!