Meeting chicks on Tinder isn’t easy – until it is. If you’re lamenting about why you have no Tinder matches each and every night, do not despair. I’m going to break down exactly why you Tinder game is lame. I’ll show you how to go from zero to hero on the app. And if we're honest, the main reason you’re struggling on Tinder, you haven’t mastered The Tinder Template
If you’re tired of having no Tinder matches, read below for some tough love tips and tricks:
1. Your Photos Suck
Point. Blank. Period. If you have no Tinder matches, your photos suck. Now before you get your panties all in a bunch, I didn’t say you were ugly, fam. I said your pictures suck ass. There’s a big difference. See, a lot of good-looking dudes have no idea how to present themselves as an attractive man in photos. They post photos with their bros, or creepy bathroom selfies, or a picture where they’re smiling so big you’d think they’re getting a rim job while it was taken.
None of the above is attractive to women on Tinder. Girls on Tinder are looking for one thing, and one thing only – dick. They want hot sex from a hot guy, but you need to remember one thing, hot is relative. You being attractive is a figment of her imagination. Girls don’t know or care what they think; the only relevant factor is how she feels.
You must instantly give girls a “feeling” as she incessantly swipes through your photos. The goal of this feeling is hopefully sexual attraction, but baby steps may be necessary. If you’ve got no Tinder matches, check out this piece on Tinder profile photos first.
2. Your “About” Section Blows
A lot of dudes write "About" sections, or Tinder bios, that absolutely blow. Instead of portraying themselves as a fun, flirty and sexy guy - they come off as a dweeb or a try-hard. It's commonplace, don't feel bad. Before I go to far into your bio on Tinder, it's important to note that your photos are worth 5-10X the value of your bio. As I've said before, if she's looking at your bio, then she's already interested in your photos. So that's good news.
The bad news is your Tinder bio can make or break the swipe. A lame bio can hurt even the best-looking guys on the app. So I'll give you one quick tip, avoid using "I'm" in your bio as much as possible. Which sounds better?
I'm a civil engineer who enjoys the outdoors.
Just a civil engineer looking for an adrenaline junky to tag along.
While neither bio is ideal, I think we can both agree the second one is better. If you're looking for more info about crafting a great Tinder bio, check this out.
3.You Didn’t Write a Tinder Bio
You know those chicks on Tinder who have no bios, three photos and no mutual friends or interests? They're usually bots, roughly 95% of the time. Chicks see Tinder bots, too.
So if your profile doesn't have text, you're hurting your chances of that swipe right. If you have no "About" section on Tinder, then you can't complain about having no Tinder matches. Also, don't make it look like shit. Girls aren't as easy and shallow as us guys so that won't fly.
Use the guide I created above to help you throw something in your profile.
4. You Don’t Send Opening Messages That Get Response
“Hi”, “Hey” and the like are not getting responses these days unless you’re fucking gorgeous. Let’s just be real. And chicks that claim to love, “cheesy pickup lines” are clear cut attention whores on Tinder.
So you need some lines that meet in the middle. They’re more than one word, but they’re not cheesy as fuck. They should be an easy clever sentence designed to to surprise. When no Tinder matches isn’t a problem, but messaging is – check this post out.
5. Your Follow-Up Game is Lame
Messaging is an art form. It's not easy; I won't lie. Girls love attention and need to be entertained. Once she's hooked, you can stick to simple questions, but it can be hard to get to that point with some chicks. You have to get her in conversation without asking too many questions. So here are my two rules:
- Try not to ask questions when you can make a comment. For example, don't say, "That's a cute dog. What kind is he?", say, "I would so steal you dog. He'd like me more than you." You're still talking about your dog, but now it's flirty and not just questions. After a little banter, you can ask what kind of dog it is (if you have to).
- Ask questions that you need to know. You don't need to know how her day is going. You've never met her. Why do you care if she's having a shit day or the best day of her life? You do need to know, "What part of town do you live in?" and "What are you looking for on here?" The answers to these questions will lead you to actually meeting up down the road.
6. You’re Too Chatty
Banter is absolutely necessary on Tinder and while texting, but you can only chat so much before meeting up in person. This is particularly the case in the dick buffet that is the United States.
There is a fine line between staying on her radar until you meet and building a connection to becoming her text buddy. Anything over ten back and forths on Tinder before getting her number is too much.
Find out the important information, get her number, and text her. That’s how to close 101.
7. You Play It Too Cool
Playing it too cool is the opposite of being too chatty. You have to show some vulnerability. You have to put yourself out there a little bit. This means you'll have to ask her some questions and make an attempt to relate to her as a human being.
There's no need to be a hard ass while on Tinder. Flirt and have fun, just avoid coming off as needy. It'll take some practice, but you'll find that fine line soon enough. Don't overthink it. You'll naturally get there as you talk to more women on Tinder.
Just remember, it's not an app for messaging. It's an app to get laid. Use Tinder, get her #, meet up, and get laid. It's as easy as that.
8. You Live In a Shitty City
If you have no Tinder matches, it could just be your location. Tinder is ass in many places. In other places, you can have sex with a new girl every day using Tinder. If you're a man in his twenties living in a city under one million people, you're doing yourself a grave disservice.
Many men (like Rob) continually lament how a man shoots himself in the foot by living in small towns and cities. If you're a single man living in the suburbs, you're literally shooting yourself in the foot from a sexual standpoint. Move! Live in a shitty studio next to the bars. Get some roommates in the restaurant district. Do whatever it takes to live in a decent sized city.
Needless to say this is pretty hard to get around. Obviously not everyone can just move whenever they want. However, you'll definitely want to expand the radius more than normal.
9. Your Logistics Are Terrible
This goes back to the city thing. If you cannot walk to bars from your home, you've already lost half the battle. We don't have to discuss how alcohol is essentially sex fuel for winners. You know how to win. Get drunk with her. Bait her back home. The last step is very important. Particularly the bait bit.
Throw on some smooth tunes. Pour her a glass of wine. Whip your dick out. It's not complex, gents. In fact, you might as well write this down and repeat it to yourself 10 times every morning.
I hear stories of guys living in butt fuck Egypt and wonder why they can't get laid. It's not you - it's your city and logistics.
10. You Don’t Use The App Enough
The Tinder algorithm is a complex son of a bitch. I won't sit here fronting like I know exactly how it works. I will say that if you don't use the app for a couple of days (up to a week), you'll probably get more matches the next time you start swiping.
If you don't use the app for a couple of weeks, you'll be so far down the match results that you may never get seen by girls in your area. If you want more Tinder matches, make it a rule to use the app every 1-3 days. Otherwise, your profile will rot, decay, and it will no longer be shown to the women we're trying so hard to get in bed.
11. You Haven’t Bought My Book Yet
While the quick tips above will ensure the problem of no Tinder matches no longer eludes you, I know some guys want detailed advice that’ll take your Tinder game from no matches to balls deep in a matter of days.
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